You had such big dreams for the two of you. You were ready to make the big commitment. You thought you’d grow old together. But then your offer on the house didn’t go through. You lost out. You won’t be buying that perfect-for-you place. You won’t be cooking in the all-white modern kitchen or planting roses in the lushly sodded and fenced yard. You’re no better off than when you started, in the same digs you wanted to leave last year. When you lose out on a house you wanted (not that that ever happens to our clients 😉 ), the heartbreak is real. It’s the real estate version of being ghosted right when you started scouting honeymoon spots. Here’s how to deal with heartache—and all of its many symptoms—when the house that was supposed to be “the one” turns out to be just another listing.
Symptom: Your head (and friends) know it was “just” a house, but your heart huuuuuurts.
Solution: Go and feel all your feels.
Don’t hold that nasty stuff in. Don’t pretend it’s no big deal. Let yourself feel everything—the disappointment, frustration, and the empty feeling of wondering what might have been. Cry it out. Scream it out. Find a punching bag and take it out. You’re mourning a lost dream. It’s legit. It’s OK to lie in a fetal position and tearfully binge watch House Hunters. Or The Hulk. You do you.
